Start here
The free tool below runs entirely in this browser — no account, nothing stored or transmitted. Redact anything you would not want kept before you type it.
Open the companion tool →Why accusation shuts the door
A kid who hears an accusation hides the app; a kid who hears curiosity keeps talking. The difference is not the facts — it is the opening line, and whether the parent asks before they conclude.
The brief is small: a non-accusing opener, three listening questions, and one boundary stated as care rather than threat. That sequence keeps the conversation open long enough to actually learn what is going on.
The protocol
- Enter what you have noticed, factually, without interpretation.
- Read the brief: opener, listening questions, and the boundary.
- Have the conversation at a calm moment, not in the middle of the conflict.
- Listen more than you talk, and schedule a follow-up.
What the tool does
Build a conversation brief with a non-accusing opener, listening questions, and a boundary. It runs in this browser; nothing is sent or stored.
Limit first: This is a conversation aid, not parenting or psychological advice. It structures your own words; it does not replace a qualified professional when one is needed.
Open the companion tool →One human next step
Have the conversation at a calm moment, ask before concluding, and set a follow-up. If anything signals crisis, involve a professional or 988.
Research log and safety checks
AI-assist path: not applicable — the conversation is the parent's own; a model draft would sound like a script, and the whole point is that it does not. §6.10: not a frontier-pace topic.
§0.5 protection result: category is family-teen-safety; crisis-adjacent: no; fear/urgency/scarcity toolkit used: no. The protective function is free and the paid feature is convenience only.